In social situations, the innate reserve and social ineptness of schizoids is clear.
At some point though, despite the fact that we have no desire to be assertive,
and we do not like modern, competitive society,
we have to learn to assert ourselves in it.
Because we find it difficult to be assertive,
we may become the victims of harassment
or even aggression.
How do we deal with this - do we leave, or stay and defend ourselves?
Although we may feign indifference,
these situations always affect us deeply.
If only we had allies.
But, of course we don’t - we are schizoid, after all.
These personal attacks leave us feeling so frustrated
that it brings the analogy of a pressure cooker to mind.
TRIGGERS FOR ANGER
Usually, schizoid anger feeds on three sources:
– a sense of frustration
– being offended
– being a victim of an injustice
Although schizoids usually come across as being indifferent,
in reality, we are deeply sensitive people.
(excluding the pure schizoids).
While most people have standard outlets for anger, schizoids don’t.
Instead, we compensate with constant fantasies of revenge
which provide little outlet for our frustration.
Then one day, suddenly and without warning,
our fury explodes disproportionately ...
Anyone who witnesses this, will wonder whether this person
– who always seemed incapable of hurting a fly -
is the same person ….
As schizoids, we frequently find ourselves in situations like these.
We have to train ourselves to deal with our anger appropriately –
by asserting ourselves, and defending our rights
In other words, we have to learn to set personal boundaries.
INHIBITION, ASSERTIVENESS AND SELF-CONFIDENCE
Our innate, schizoid inhibition is the reason for our original frustration
and, ultimately, for triggering our anger (see triggers described above).
Inhibition is a weakness when living in society.
To improve our self-image, we have to practise being assertive.
Assertiveness will enable us to defend ourselves from personal attack,
and to maintain our position in society,
It is also the best way to prevent sudden outbursts of fury.
(See our article on self-confidence)
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